4 Ways to Practice An Attitude Of Gratitude This Holiday Season
With the holiday season upon us, it is important to develop an attitude of gratitude. By developing an attitude of gratitude you will become warmer, friendlier and increase your self-esteem. An attitude of gratitude causes you to be more sensitive and aware of people around you. The more gratitude you have, the more gratitude you express, the better and more positive your personality is, the higher your self-esteem becomes, the more popular and liked you are by all the people around you.
Developing An Attitude Of Gratitude
Over the holiday season develop the habit of practicing an “attitude of gratitude” and the four A’s: appreciation, approval, admiration and attention, in every part of your life. The habit of feeling and expressing gratitude to people, for all of the things in your life that you should be grateful for, has a wonderful effect on your personality. Even in the midst of the greatest difficulties you will experience this holiday season and in life, you can find things for which you are truly grateful. In fact, if you take a piece of paper and begin to write down the parts of your life for which you should be grateful, you will be amazed at how many items appear on your list.
Make Them Feel Important
The deepest need in human nature is to feel valuable and important. By developing an attitude of gratitude you begin doing everything possible to raise the person’s self-esteem, to help them to like themselves even more. You should imagine this holiday season that every person is wearing a sign around his or her neck, all day long, that says, ‘‘Make me feel important.’’ In every interaction with every single person, you should respond to this basic human request. You should always be looking for ways to make people feel important and valuable as parts of your life.
Practice The Four A’s Daily To Build Self-Esteem
There are four key behaviors that you can practice over the holiday season, and every day after to make people feel important. They all begin with the letter A.
Have an attitude of gratitude and take every opportunity over the holiday season to thank each person for everything that he or she does, small or large, in the process of carrying out their duties. Every time you develop an attitude of gratitude and say ‘‘Thank you’’ to a person, his or her self-esteem goes up. He or she feels better and more valuable. And he or she is even more motivated to do more of the things for which they received appreciation in the first place.
The second way to make people feel valuable over the holiday season is to express approval. Give praise and approval on every occasion for every accomplishment of whatever size. Give praise for every good effort. Give praise for every good suggestion or idea. Especially, praise people when they do something that goes above and beyond the call of duty. Praise immediately, praise specifically, and praise regularly. Whenever you praise people, they experience it physically and emotionally. Their self-esteem rises, and they feel happy inside. And whatever you praise gets repeated. In fact, the definition of self-esteem is ‘‘the degree to which a person feels himself or herself to be praiseworthy.’’
The third self-esteem building behavior you can practice is admiration. As Abraham Lincoln said, ‘‘Everybody likes a compliment.’’ Continually compliment people on their traits, such as punctuality and persistence. This holiday season, compliment people on their possessions, such as their clothes, accessories, and even their decorations. Compliment them on their accomplishments, both at work and in their private lives. Every time you admire something about another person, you raise that person’s self-esteem and make them feel happier.
The fourth behavior, perhaps the most important of all over the holiday season, is the behavior of attention. This simply means that you listen. Listen patiently. Listen quietly. Listen calmly. Listen thoughtfully. Listen without interrupting. True listeners hear what’s being said to them.
Be Thankful Over The Holiday Season
Over the holiday season think of the wonderful experiences you’ve had in the past, the lessons you’ve learned, the books you’ve read, the movies you’ve seen, the songs you’ve heard and the foods you have eaten. Think of the places that you have visited and the experiences that you have had in your travels and work. Look back over the years that have passed and look at the years ahead. Think about the opportunities you have lying ahead of you, and you will be amazed at how many things you have in your life for which you can be truly grateful.
No matter what your condition, you can be grateful for all of your senses, for the miracles of sight, sound, touch, taste, smell and feeling. You can be thankful for the functioning of your body and for the health of your limbs. You can be grateful for the incredible gift of the life that you have lived up until now, and the great life that lies ahead of you. During the holiday season while sitting alone in your room, think about your current blessings and of reasons to be truly grateful. This holiday season develop an attitude of gratitude and practice the four A’s to build your self-esteem and make the most of your life.
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