Show Your Thanks and Boost Motivation

In honor of Thanksgiving this week, I want to encourage you to voice your “attitude of gratitude”.   Say thank you and give constructive feedback to your staff, friends, children and co-workers and encourage them to be better in their lives and work.  Make it a habit to give people continual praise and encouragement. The more you praise and encourage positive constructive behaviors, the more deposits you make to the emotional bank account. The easier it will then be for people to take constructive feedback from you at a later time.

Appreciate People for Everything They Do

There are three keys to getting the best out of others, and the first of these is appreciation. Every time you thank another person, you cause that person to like themselves better. You raise their self-esteem and improve their self-image. You cause them to feel more important. You make them feel that what they did was valuable and worthwhile. You empower them.

Build Your Own Self-Esteem

And the wonderful thing about thanking other people is that, every time you say the words “thank you,” you like yourself better as well. You feel better inside. You feel happier and more content with yourself and life. You feel more fully integrated and positive about what you are doing. When you develop an attitude of gratitude that flows forth from you in all of your interactions with others, you will be amazed at how popular you will become and how eager others will be to help you in whatever you are doing.

Praise and Approve Others Continually

The second way to make people feel important, raise self-esteem and give them a sense of power and energy, is by the generous use of praise and approval. Psychological tests show that, when children are praised by the people that they look up to, their energy levels rise, their heart rates and respiratory rates increase and they feel happier about themselves overall.

Make People Feel Important

Perhaps the most valuable lesson in Ken Blanchard’s book The One Minute Manager is his recommendation to be giving “one-minute praising” at every opportunity. If you go around your home and through your social relationships praising and giving genuine and honest approval to people for their accomplishments, large and small, you will be amazed at how much more people like you and how much more willing they are to help you achieve your goals.

Practice the Law of Reciprocity

There is a psychological law of reciprocity that says, “If you make me feel good about myself, I will find a way to make you feel good about yourself.” In other words, people will always look for ways to reciprocate your kindnesses toward them. When you look for every opportunity to do and say things that make other people feel good about themselves, you will be astonished at not only how good you feel, but at the wonderful things that begin to happen all around you.

Pay Attention When They Talk

The third way to empower others, to build their self-esteem and make them feel important is simply to pay close attention to them when they talk. The great majority of people are so busy trying to be heard that they become impatient when others are talking. But this is not for you. Remember, the most important single activity that takes place over time is listening intently to the other person when he or she is talking and expressing himself or herself.

Take Every Opportunity to Build People Up

Again, the three general rules for empowering the people around you, which apply to everyone you meet, are appreciation, approval, and attention.  Say thank you and voice your gratitude to others on every occasion. Praise them for every accomplishment. And pay close attention to them when they talk and want to interact with you. These three behaviors alone will make you a master of human interaction and will greatly empower the people around you.

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    Thanks a lot for raising our spirits high and creating new ideas in our minds and for this moment my appreciation, approval and attention goes to you.

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    thank god because he sends you to these world, you really change my life . in every day , i always read your advice:” i like myself, im the best, i can do it, i love my work”. welcome you to vietnam( if you come to HaNoi, i would like to invite you to see my one year old daughter( the youngest fan of you)

  • Nicodemus N. Ibanga

    PRAISING BEFORE A REQUEST IS MY FAVOURITE:

    THIS IS A SPECIAL THANK YOU FROM ME TO YOU BRIAN AND MY WONDERFUL PEOPLE OUT THERE.

    You shall be bountifully repaid for your generosity as I say ‘ I Appreciate Your Kindness’.
    The smile you have put on my lips shall be a spirit that will usher in more blessings for you from above.
    Because of your kindness, you will always dwell in the abundance of every good things…
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    For starters I would love to say thank you Brian for this update.

    This Thankgiving week you guys have in America should be a once a month/ week affair and not once a year.

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    Thank you for your work too.

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  • Ali

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