3 Bad Leadership Qualities to Avoid: Build Self-Esteem and Lead Your Team to Peak Performance

One of the best leadership qualities that a manager can develop is to build self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-respect in others. By focusing on building self-esteem, you can help your team reach peak performance.

Each person has unlimited potential and can reach peak performance in the right environment. They have huge reservoirs of creativity that can be unleashed to solve problems, overcome obstacles and achieve business goals.

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Thus, the leader is the most important person in any organization. The leader sets the tone by the way he talks, behaves, responds to others and treats people on a day to day basis. People tend to “follow the leader” in that they imitate or mimic the behavior of the leader toward others.  When the leader treats other people with courtesy and respect, everyone eventually begins treating their coworkers with the same courtesy and respect. Everything they do is carefully noted and affects the behavior of the person below them. A kind word from you to one of your staff members can make them feel happy all day. An angry word can make them feel frustrated, afraid and insecure for the rest of the day.  You must be careful.

Develop the Right Leadership Qualities

There are specific behaviors that you can practice each day, and in each interaction, to raise your team’s self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. When you deliberately take the time and make the effort to build self-esteem in other people and simultaneously eliminate the fears that hold people back from putting their whole hearts into their work, a peak performance work environment, like flowers in the spring blooms naturally around you.

Refuse to Criticize

Refuse to criticize anyone for any reason. When people make mistakes, you focus on the solution and on what can be done rather than who did it and who is to blame. This is the mark of the superior leader with admirable leadership qualities.

We all know that destructive criticism is harmful. Personally we all hate to be the recipients of destructive criticism. It can make us angry for days, and even years. Destructive criticism attacks our self-esteem, hurts our self-image, hinders us from reaching peak performance and makes us angry and defensive. If it is so hateful to us, why would we ever do it to someone else?

Stop Complaining

The second thing that you stop doing is complaining for any reason. Complainers are always looking for something or someone to complain about. They tend to associate with other complainers. They talk together at work and socialize after work. They go out for lunch and coffee breaks together. Complaining becomes a natural way of life for them.

But there is a major problem with both criticizing and complaining. In both situations you are positioning yourself as a victim. When you complain you actually weaken yourself. You feel inferior and inadequate. You feel angry and resentful. You feel negative and unsure. Your level of self-esteem and self-respect actually declines as you complain about anything to someone else.

If you are not happy about something, as the manager, you are entitled to bring it to the attention of the other person. You are entitled, and responsible for putting it on the table and discussing it. These are admirable leadership qualities that you must learn to develop to become a respected manger. If you are not happy with a behavior or an outcome, your job is to actively intervene to improve or correct the situation. But you do this by being honest and objective about the distance between what you expected and what has actually happened. You then invite ideas and input on how you and the other person or persons can solve the problem or improve the situation. But you never complain.

Stop Condemning

The third behavior that you can stop is that of condemning anyone for any reason either inside or outside of your company. When you condemn other people, usually in private, you demoralize the listener, and the self-esteem of the other person will be severely lowered. When you condemn people outside the company, someone will eventually tell them what you have said, usually in a distorted version, and it will come back to haunt you. This seems to be a law of nature, and completely unavoidable.

These recommendations are equally as important when you are talking about competitors or customers in the marketplace.  Never criticize your competitors. Admire them if they are more successful in some areas than you are, and then look for ways to produce even better products and services, and sell them even more effectively.  Never complain about people and problems outside your business. Instead, use that same amount of mental energy to find solutions and to resolve the problems that led to the complaints in the first place.

Building Self-Esteem for Peak Performance

When you develop positive leadership qualities and are genuinely a cheerful manager, your general attitude suffuses like a warm light and fills the entire workplace. You create an environment where people are relaxed and happy and feel good about themselves and their work. You will raise the self-esteem of everyone in the workplace and allow them to reach their peak performance.

I hope you enjoyed this article on how to avoid becoming a bad leader by developing positive leadership qualities. If you have any tips on how to build the self-esteem of others to help them reach peak performance in the workplace, please share and comment below!

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