How To Believe in Yourself and Boost Your Self-Confidence
The process of thinking and talking about what you want and how to get it actually makes you feel happier and in greater control of your life.
And when you feel in control of your life, you start to believe in yourself more and boost your confidence.
How to Believe in Yourself
Learning how to believe in yourself starts with thinking positively and vocalizing positive statements to yourself to build your self-esteem.
It also includes identifying what your highest values and aspirations in life are and setting expectations so you can be true to yourself — which will let you live your best life.
At the end of the day, believing in yourself doesn’t have to be a complicated process. Try some of these proven methods to help you believe in yourself and even boost self-confidence.
Focusing on positive thoughts and emotions will teach you how to believe in yourself. One way you can learn how to think positively is by adopting an optimistic mindset.
This means that no matter what happens in your life, you can look at it as an experience to learn from and use to make your life even better.
Being optimistic also helps build your self-confidence. Being pessimistic, however, tears down your self-esteem and prevents you from growing due to fear, lack of faith, or unwillingness to take risks. In fact, negative thoughts are the single biggest enemy that any of us have.
The key to eliminating negative thoughts and emotions is to take responsibility for yourself, your reactions, and your situation by having good values.
Your values in life determine your beliefs, about yourself and the world around you. For example, if you have positive values, such as love, compassion, and generosity, you will believe that people in your world are deserving of these values and you will treat them accordingly.
And when you believe in yourself and choose to be a good person, you will find yourself to be more positive and successful in your own life.
Think about this: Who do you know right now that you consider being a confident person?
Take note of the things they say and choose not to say, the choices they make, and the people they surround themselves with.
Do more confident people come to mind?
The reason this happens is by the law of cause and effect. If you act in the same way other healthy, happy people with positive attitudes act, you will soon feel the same way, see the same results, and enjoy the same experiences.
Believe You Have Confidence
Perhaps one of the hardest things to do in life is to accept how extraordinary you really are, believe in yourself, and then incorporate this awareness into your attitude and personality.
But there is no one like you. You have unique contributions to share with the world that only you can give.
After all, we all have our own talents, skills, and abilities that make us extraordinary.
So one key to having confidence is by saying it. Tell yourself you have confidence, and then believe it.
Your thoughts become words and your words become your actions. So if you continue to tell yourself that you believe in yourself, eventually you really will believe in yourself.
Start by repeating affirmations such as, “I believe in myself,” every day.
It’s that simple.
Have the courage to accept yourself as you really are — not as you might be, or as someone else thinks you should be — and know that taking everything into consideration, you really are worthy to have the kind of life you want. You are an extraordinary person.
Set Expectations And Know Your Values In Life
Your beliefs determine your expectations.
When you expect good things to happen to you, you will be more positive, cheerful, and future-oriented. You will look for the good in other people and situations.
For example, if your value is that this is a good world to live in and your belief is that you are going to be very successful in life, you will expect everything that happens to you is helping you in some way.
As a result, you will have a positive mental attitude toward other people, and they will respond positively toward you, helping you be a more cheerful and optimistic person that others will want to work with and for, buy from and sell to, and generally help to be more successful.
Focus on Building Self-Esteem
When you take steps toward building your self-esteem, your confidence grows and the natural outcome is that you start to believe in yourself. Use these six elements of self-esteem building to help you learn how to believe in yourself:
Setting clear, accomplishable goals gives you purpose and makes you feel good about yourself. Each step you take toward achieving your goals builds your self-esteem.
People with high self-esteem have high standards, and they make choices that are consistent with their standards. Develop values and ideals that you can be proud of, and make sure your goals are aligned with them.
When you are setting your goals, write down the smaller milestones it will take for you to reach them. Each positive experience you have with success — large or small — will add to your belief in yourself.
Comparison With Others
Identify people you respect and look up to, whose standards align with the ones you want to have. As you progress, compare yourself to see how you measure up and get clues about how you can improve.
Recognition from people who are important to you, such as your family members, boss, or mentor builds your self-esteem. Striving to achieve your goals will attract recognition.
Along with recognition are tangible rewards. Your self-esteem grows as you work toward and receive a bonus at work, certification or licensure, an advancement in position or level of trust, or other status markers.
How to Build Self-Confidence
The more positive elements you have in your life, the easier it is to have self-confidence and believe in yourself even more.
Deciding to make small changes in your routine and surroundings can have a big impact on your ability to think, do, and feel positive. Two of the best ways to achieve this are surrounding yourself with positivity and reading self-confidence books.
Surround Yourself With Positivity
Your choice of the people with whom you live, work, and associate has more of an impact on your emotions and your success than any other factor. Decide today to associate with winners, with positive people, and those who are going somewhere with their lives.
Visualize positive things and set positive expectations for yourself, as well. Envision yourself accomplishing your goals, living the life you want to live, and being surrounded by what you want in your life.
Focus on, “what if I succeed,” instead of, “what if I fail.”
It’s also important to develop favorable health habits.
Eating healthy food, staying fit, and getting enough rest give you the energy you need to accomplish your goals and keep your mind clear and active.
When you are healthy, you feel good about yourself.
Read Helpful Self-Confidence Books
When it comes to building self-confidence, there are so many authors who have written about proven methods to help do just that.
Consider reading a few of these works to help you understand how to build self-confidence:
- “The Power of Self-Confidence” by Brian Tracy
- “The Confidence Code” by Claire Shipman
- “Get Out of Your Own Way” by Philip Goldberg and Mark Goulston
- “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field” by Nathaniel Branden
- “Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds” by David Goggins
- “The Self Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem” by Barbara Markway, Celia Ampel, and Teresa Flynn
Always Believe in Yourself
By learning how to believe in yourself, you will find the courage to take immediate action on your goals. And this, as you may know, is the key to success!
A fantastic step to take in building your self-confidence and believing in yourself is setting and achieving goals. Start achieving your goals with my 14-Step Goal Setting Guide and start believing in yourself today!
I encourage you to never compromise your integrity by trying to be, say, or feel something that is not true for you.
And – more importantly – never compromise your potential to grow due to self-limiting doubts. Instead, embrace your confidence and believe in yourself because you really can do anything you put your mind to.
About Brian Tracy — Brian is recognized as the top sales training and personal success authority in the world today. He has authored more than 60 books and has produced more than 500 audio and video learning programs on sales, management, business success and personal development, including worldwide bestseller The Psychology of Achievement. Brian's goal is to help you achieve your personal and business goals faster and easier than you ever imagined. You can follow him on Google+, Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, Linkedin and Youtube.