Feel Good About Your Life and Be Happy

Sometimes people feel that they are controlled by external circumstances.  But the fact is that your life is largely determined by your own personal choices and decisions in every area.  You are where you are and what you are because of yourself.  You have gotten yourself to where you are as the result of the choices and decisions that you have made in the past.  If you want to be somewhere else in the future, it is up to you to make new and better choices and decisions in the present.


One of the most important discoveries in 20th century thought has been the central role of the actions that you take.  An action is defined as something with a consequence.  Using this definition, even an inaction can be considered to be an action, because inaction, or a failure to act on your part, has a consequence that can dramatically impact your life.

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For example, a person who fails to finish school, or fails to read regularly, or to listen to audio tapes and take additional training, is committing to what you might call an “inaction.”  But because it has devastating consequences on the future for that person, it can be considered an action as well.

The most important actions that you take in determining the quality of your life revolve around the virtues and values that you decide to embrace and live by.  They are as important to your life as breathing in and breathing out.  The fact is that everything that you do is largely determined by what you feel to be good and right and true about life and people-your values!

When you are living consistent with your values, you feel good about yourself.  When you are living inconsistent with your values, you feel badly about yourself.

Be Happy and Feel Good

Aristotle, perhaps the greatest of all the philosophers, broke new ground in thinking when he determined that all of human action is aimed at achieving the happiness of the individual.  He said that we are all the same in this one respect.  We all seek happiness, however we define it.  Everything you do is merely a step in the direction of achieving the ultimate happiness you seek. Aristotle did not stop there.  He went on to point out that only the good can be happy, and only the virtuous can be good.  Therefore, all happiness is determined by the ability of the individual to establish and live by values and virtues that are life enhancing.

From the earliest days of civilization, the purpose of an education was to instill values into the character of the young.  For the first 200 years of American historical development, it was understood that the purpose of the schools was to teach values and the purpose of the home was to teach religion.  Young people were instructed by reading the stories, poems and plays of men and women in previous time periods who most demonstrated and illustrated the values by which that person should live if a person wanted to have a happy life.

Aristotle went on to point out that, if you have been brought up without clear values, you can develop values by deciding upon the kind of person you want to be and then by acting as if you had the values that that person would have.

Sculpt Your Life and Your Future

The wonderful thing about being a human being is that you are free to shape and sculpt your own character.  You can make new choices and decisions at any time of life, especially with regard to your values, and begin acting as if you had those values already.

Perhaps the measure essence of happiness is your ability to achieve the three common goals of self-respect, self-esteem and personal pride that everyone wants.  It is only when you have these three in sufficient quantities that you feel really good about yourself.

Thank you for reading this article about changing your life and how you can be happy. Please share and comment below!

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  • This article could not be more relative to my life, right now. I recently left my six figure corporate job because I hated everything about it, and being in the rat race. Many people wind up in industries they don’t intend upon working in, and I knew this was the case for me. For the first time in my life, I’m not fretting over how much money I have in the bank, my bills and future expenses. I feel at ease knowing I’m now pursuing exactly what I want. I work part time checking ID’s for 11 bucks an hour and pick up various freelance work with a $3,000/ month overhead and couldn’t be happier. Thanks for the clarification and wonderful Aristotle references.

  • David

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  • Brian,

    Thank you for discussing the idea that someone can change their values. When we speak to groups and organizations we always try to emphasize this point as well- you have the ability to make the conscious choice and decide who you want to be. I enjoy following your blog!

    Danielle E. Aaronson

  • Steven Watson


    I used your program, “The Phoenix Seminar on the Psychology of Achievement in 1970, and it changed my life dramatically. Over a year later I came down to a workshop on presenting this program to the public that was held in your San Diego office. I decided that it would be time comsuming to learn how to do this effectively, and my income has risen so dramatically in my commercial real estate business that I decided not to detract from my current endeavors. Today I pulled out the handbook to do a tune up on myself, and to recommend this program to my son. I am on your website to see if you still offer it, and I might be more open to reconsider the prevision decision, if you are still offering live workshops.

    Your systems work wonders. I have been to several of your public speaking engagements, and I always to how with something new and helpful. You have had a good impact on my life.jj

    Thank you,

    Steve Watson

  • Great Article – Thanks for sharing Brian.

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